Healing. It’s a
gift. In my life, I have experienced
mercy and grace which has allowed healing to take place, mostly in myself and
in relationship to others. The ability
to offer such a gift to others has no monetary price tag, but I know it comes
at a cost.
When I have given a road for healing to others, it’s not
always what I might want to do. I defer
to being bitter, angry, vindictive or self-righteous. It’s my nature, and I don’t think I am alone
in that. I have a right to be hurt. That person was callous, egotistical or just
plain wrong. And now, the relationship
is damaged. This damaged relationship is
now impacting situations, workflow or other relationships. The impact of this problem is tension, a rift
or brokenness and it is far-reaching and, for businesses, costly.
As the week’s events between SHRM and HRCI have unfolded, I
kept coming back to this idea of healing.
HR professionals know that we are often (if not always) called upon to
mend relationship and change the course of brokenness in the workplace. We converse with the injured parties; we
bring our affirming communicative skills to bear on the situation; we coach the
parties to seek resolution. We recognize
that there really can be someone in the wrong, but that does not have to be where
the situation ends. Now that error is
seen, what are we doing to mend it? We
push for repair and then growth to learn how to deal with similar facts in the
future.
SHRM and HRCI feel a little like Mom and Dad fighting. This week, I have felt like the kid from the
marriage watching, listening and being heart-broken. I love both of my parents. I have demonstrated allegiance to both sides
and expressed love equally. Just as in
most divorce situations, Mom and Dad’s individual needs and wants have evolved
for some time. Both sides are looking
back and trying to pinpoint when the complimentary paths diverged. And regardless of fault or blame, they are
now dealing with the gap that has widened between them and their expectations
of each other.
The kids in a divorce situation want to help. They want things to go back to how they
were. They want healing. For us, as HR professionals, we must not
choose sides but appreciate each side independently of the other. It’s not our job to fix their relationship;
these two sides consist of big girls and boys who can and should find their way
to common ground for the sake of the professionals they serve. Just as kids often cannot fix mom and dad’s
relationship, we find ourselves heartsick observers.
What we can choose to do is be a conduit for healing as
opportunity strikes. Share with each
side how we feel. Maintain the integrity
of our roles as HR professionals.
Continue to be proud of the growth and accomplishments we’ve achieved
that both sides have afforded, whether PHR/SPHR/GPHR certification or volunteer
leadership positions in SHRM. We have
been cared for by both organizations.
Let’s return that care back to the two sides that are in need now.
Again, healing is a gift.
It’s not a wussy, feel good sentiment, but a willful decision with measurable
results. That kind of decision ought to
be the type that we’re already used to making as HR professionals. Listen up, Kids! There's a problem. Mom and Dad need us now.